My last week in Portugal before returning to Saudi Arabia was full of emotions. As I wrote before, I traveled to support my mother. Her partner had a terminal dis-ease and she was emotional and physically exhausted.
I visited her for three weeks and went to see him to the hospital. Sadly, he left this earthly realm.
He was a very kind person, always with a smile for everyone. When I visited him in the hospital, he was cheerful, as always, and was so happy to see me. His physical body was changing, but his reasoning was as sharp as before and I could feel that he still had his zest for life.
He told me how hard it was to be in that room for 24 hours a day. He was waiting to go home soon and read the newspaper at his favourite coffee shop.
These were unique moments that I will never forget. I’ve been reflecting about all this experience and asking myself what lessons could I take from this?
Below are the main lessons that I have learned. I’ve added four more things to the previous ones ( you can read the first three here).
4.Purely enjoy your small pleasures in life
Our small pleasures - the ones we take for granted - are the ones we will miss more. Simple pleasures like going for a walk in the morning, being in nature, going to the beach, reading a good book, having a nice cup of tea, listening to our kids playing. We need to make time to have at least one of these everyday.
5.Let go of your addictions
By the end, we will face ourselves and our emotions as they are. Raw.
Our addictions, whichever those are: cigars, food, sweets, shopping, social media, TV… - won’t “save” us anymore. The instant pleasure and the fake relief won’t have any effect on us anymore.
On our last days we will need to face - perhaps for the first time in our lives everything we feel inside without hiding or running away from it.
6.Love immensely - yourself and others
Love for the pleasure of loving, without expecting anything back. Simply. That.
7.Take your dreams seriously
Be brave to do the things you Love. Even if it is for 5 min a day…
When we are moms, time becomes so precious. A quite moment to have a warm cup of tea is a treasure. Time for doing something we really love ( like painting, writing, working on our business,…) it’s a dream. We keep delaying: “One day, when kids are older, I’ll be able to do that.” we say.
But the truth is that there will always be a reason. A motive. An excuse. A delay to our dream.
At The End what will we say? Which excuse will we give?
Take your dreams seriously. They are callings from heaven, whispers from your Soul. Your purpose is to bring those dreams to reality no matter what.
These were my life lessons during this period of my life.
Now it’s your turn to create awareness and apply them to your life. Learning without action doesn’t bring any change. Your action for now is to answer the following questions:
-What simple pleasure I love, that is completely accessible and I can do it everyday?
-What are my addictions? Food, sweets, social media, TV, cigars… Addictions come in many ways. Acknowledge them. No judgment. You are just creating awareness.
-How can I be more loving to myself? ( Hint: I show myself more love and respect when I take the time to do what I love. No excuses.)
If you are still not sure if you have time to answer these questions, I leave you with the teachings of the angel of death as D. Miguel Ruiz puts it in his amazing book The four agreements:
“ You see everything that it is here is mine; It is not yours. Your house, your spouse, your children, your car, your career, your money - everything is mine and I can take it away when I want to, but for now you can use it. “
Note: With all this happening, I questioned myself if I still should go ahead and offer- there in Portugal- the women’s circle that I was so excited about . Many things got on the way… But I made it happen! And It was a beautiful experience! I’ll tell you more about it soon.
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